Last week, however, I realized that I hadn't seen them like any of my posts in a while. After checking my followers, I saw that they were no longer following me. I know that this is silly, but it hurt my feelings! I felt like it had all been fake; that they had followed me just so that I would follow them in return. Normally this wouldn't bother me (since we aren't really friends anyway), but other things had been going on in the background. As I have been growing my Instagram following, I have noticed many people following me and then unfollowing me. At first I didn't realize what was happening and wondered why my numbers were going up and down daily. Since I use social media to follow and connect with people I enjoy, it bothered me that so many seem to do it to simply gain their own following.
As I've met and talked to people, I've realized how many people don't have true friendships and it's so sad! I think part of the problem is time. We are busy, true. But, when we have time, we use it for other things. Another problem that I see is social media. It connects people, yes. But, it is also killing relationships...pay attention next time you're out in public and look at how many people are on their cell phone while they are with someone else who they could be talking to instead. Finally, though, I feel like people don't know what makes a true friend, so they don't know how to be one either. I'm no expert, but here are the things that matter to me.
2. Dependable. There is a big difference between "I'll do it" and "I'll try". When someone says "I'll try", I hear it as "I'm not going to put effort, but if it happens then great". People need someone to depend on. If you say you'll do something, do it. If you say you'll be somewhere, be there (on time). If someone is trying to get a hold of you, answer that phone call or respond to that text. Be available to your friends so that they know you are there for them when they need you.
3. Trustworthy. Give good advice. Keep secrets. Have your friends back. People already have enough things to worry about, so don't be one of them. Stick by your friends side no matter what happens. Be the type of friend that people feel safe with and sure about.
Think about your friendships now. Are there people that you need to distance yourself from? Is there someone you should spend more time with? Being a true friend to a few is so much better than a crappy friend to many, so choose your friends wisely. Are you a true friend?