I have LOTS of Big Goals for my life and in some ways I believe that they will happen, but at the same time, I also know that they will NEVER happen. Do you ever have those moments?!?!?!?!
Recently, I had a specific goal that I had been working towards for a LONG time. I was working HARD! But, every single time I thought about this goal, I would think thoughts like:
-It will NEVER happen.
-I can't do it.
-I'm not as good as __________.
-I'll probably fail.
-People won't like me.
-I don't have what it takes.
-I'm not a leader.
-I'm too shy.
The list goes on and on and on.
So, on one hand, I would give myself a pep-talk and tell myself "YAY YOU CAN DO IT"...but at the same time, I would secretly be thinking, "I can say it, but it doesn't mean it will happen".
These doubts, fears and disbeliefs actually come from something deeper and more intense...
So, when I dug a little deeper, I found these beliefs:
"It will NEVER happen because I can't do it and I'll fail
because I'm a quitter, I'm not good at anything and I never
finish anything well."
"I will NEVER be as good as _______ because I'm shy, easily overwhelmed and usually anxious and can't handle any type of stressful situations because I don't have the right personality/characteristics to be successful and make something of myself."
OH MY GOSH.
"I will NEVER fit in because I have always been the outsider/foreigner and no one will ever like me, accept me or invite me into their group because they can tell that I don't belong."
So, I talk to myself like this ^^^ and then wonder why I don't feel confident...my past is now affecting my present and future!!!
So, what can be done?!?!?!?!?
Since, I have identified my Limiting Beliefs about myself...I can create powerful opposites!
So, here is what I have: I am a hard worker and always do the best that I can do at the time! I have many gifts, talents and strengths that help me do things that I enjoy. I have a group of friends that I love and they love me and accept me for me.
What are YOUR limiting beliefs!?!?
-You need to identify them
-Create powerful opposites
-Write those ^^^ down 10 times each per day
-See how you feel about yourself after two weeks!!!!!!!
"The most Influential person you will
talk to all day is you...be careful what